Heal Anxiety, Master Triggers & Transform Relationships.
Wisely Attached
Applications Now Open
Are you ready to heal wounds, master triggers and transform your relationships?
After the success of the first Wisely Attached 12 week signature programme in the summer of 2024, it will be running for a second time, on January 27th 2025.
Applications are open from December 13th and all applicants will be invited to a 30 min discovery call in January with Louize to ensure the programme is a good fit for you.
Make sure you are signed up to the mailing list for application annoucements and early bird pricing (which will be limited).
What people are saying:
Hello!
I’m Louize Carroll, the Creator of the Programme
I’m a chartered social psychologist with the Psychological Society of Ireland, a relationships coach training with the infamous Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy Training and I have worked in the area of mental health and relationships for over 16 years.
I'm also the resident psychologist on Today FM with Dermot and Dave (now just Dave!) and I feature on The Therapy Room podcast - a spin off series with Dr Tony Bates and Niall Breslin on his award winning podcast, Where Is My Mind.
I have written for several years for the Sunday Business Post on relationships and I am also the Bass Player in The Blizzards.
But at the core of my work are my own experience of toxic patterns in personal relationships in the past. I'm grateful to have learned that transformation can only happen when the pain of staying the same begins to outweigh the pain of change.
And I'm currently integrating everything I would have needed, everything I know to be true and useful for healing yourself and creating healthy relationships in a programme I have named 'Wisely Attached'.
Apply to the 12 Week Signature Programme
Once you submit your application, we will be in touch to arrange a follow up call in January.
At this point in my 16 year career and my own personal life, I truly believe our periods of profound emotional and mental pain in this life are not down to being broken or ill or ‘disordered’, they are down to an excruciating loss of connection somewhere along the way.
In essence, at some point over the course of our lives, we were very badly let down.
- Louize Carroll
Why Is Wisely Attached Unique?
If you’ve read all the books, and immersed yourself in instagram self-help pages, but still feel triggered in relationships, it is likely because:
The current field of trauma is not relational, it’s individual.
You can heal yourself still be a ticking time-bomb in relationship, and find yourself repeatedly being triggered into oblivion.
You see, we can understand and heal the wound, but it doesn’t change the behaviour. We need to know how to LIMIT the behaviour we developed to cope in relationships as kids and move into the wise adult consciousness.
You can learn to show up in healthier ways to cultivate satisfying relationships, even if you’re not healed.
The Wise Rise
Once you sign up as a member of the Wisely Attached Coaching Programme you will be part of the group that meets weekly at The Wise Rise. Together we start the day out right, before the birds get up and the phones start making their daily demands. It’s an incredible way to ground, regulate, focus and inspire ourselves for the day ahead.
What Exactly Is Wisely Attached?
An intensive 12 week programme to change your relationship with yourself so that you can cultivate:
A profound re-connection with and reclaiming of your actual self, free from constraints of relationship-induced anxiety.
A deep dive and practical reconditioning of your nervous system so you can feel safe in your own skin, no matter what you’re dealing with.
An understanding of your own unique Relational DNA® - your coding that influences your choices, triggers and behaviours.
The practice of open-heartedness in order to break down barriers with your partner.
The ability to discern red flags from amber flags in potential or current partners.
A powerful insight into your own power to redirect conflict, even when facing resistance.
The ability to break toxic patterns in favour of healthy, grounded, communicative and rewarding relationship patterns.
The capacity to attune to your body like never before and soothe yourself.
Efficacy at working through relational patterns and trigger points.
Advanced communication skills that allow you to fight well (yes you read that right).
Communication techniques that allow you to build repair after arguments and conflict.
The skills of using your emotions as a compass, whilst no longer being hijacked by them.
The CBT skill of not being hijacked by your thoughts, so that you can be the partner you want to be.
Wise choices that collaborate with the heart when it comes to choosing a partner, navigating challenging family, friend or work relationships.
A renewed, healthy and powerful sense of self.
An enhanced capacity for love, trust, and connection, rooted in a deep sense of personal worth and emotional strength.
Healing through relationship with others, a unique and intimate experience together.
What You Will Get:
12 Weeks of Exclusive Premium Relational Content developed by Louize that guides you through a healing roadmap to address wounds, master triggers and transform relationships.
Weekly 90 Mins Live group coaching calls.
NEW 1-1 Support: Access Louize via DM audio during weekly ‘Q&A office hours’ (coaching only) and 1-1 responses and check-ins once per day in the community over 12 weeks (coaching + self-guided).
Free Access for Additional 3 months to the programme material.
Videos + Audio + Practical Actions released weekly.
Weekly Mindset + behaviour changing tools + exercises.
Healing With Each Other: peer-to-peer support on your journey.
Private Community: dedicated Wisely Attached community platform.
Tailored private app for easy access away from social media.
2 Options/Pricing/Flexible Payments: Choose between coaching & self-guided, a programme to match your needs.
Coaching group is limited to 20 participants for comfort.
12 MODULES, 12 WEEKS
Click in for more details on each module and what you can expect.
Healthy and secure relationships are borne not simply out of luck or compatibility, but from a series of wise decisions.
- Louize
W.I.S.E
Wake up from your inner child calling the shots
Integrate your wise adult
Start behaving intentionally
Experience transformed relationships
Is Wisely Attached Is Right For Me?
You will walk beside yourself, every step of the way of your entire life, right up until the day you take your last breath.
You’ve read the books. You’ve listened to the podcasts. Maybe you’ve even gone to therapy.
You’ve already embarked on self-development work, but you still feel stuck, still feel like there’s some code you havent quite cracked yet.
Wisely Attached makes sure that you finally look directly between the eyes of your behaviours and beliefs that keep you locked inside patterns, do you a disservice, that undermine you and that trip you up in your life and in your relationships.
I want to help you to back yourself.
This doesn't mean you have to be totally in love with yourself before you have a healthy relationship (this is actually really difficult for some people for a variety of reasons), it just means you have to have some semblance of yourself, that is willing to invest in yourself.
Yes, it's true we may have made some clangers in our relational choices in the past (if you are reading this, you are in good company, believe me), but I am here to help you figure out the relational DNA® that lies behind those choices, so that you can wake up to your wild and adaptive child, buckle them up in the back seat and let your wise adult take over the wheel.
So, in a nutshell Wisely Attached is for you if:
you are worried about your own judgement in suitable partners after a series of chaotic relationships
you are sick and tired of unhealthy patterns and conflict in relationships
if you secretly (or not so secretly feel you’re unworthy of being loved the way you want
if you consistently doubt a partner’s commitment
you flip from being anxious to being distant in relationships
if you are tired of only getting hurt and heartache in relationship
if you have a tendency to be fearful of rejection or of being abandoned by your partner
if you spiral out of of emotional control in conflict and cannot ever find appropriate words when you need them
you are constantly on edge in relationships, watching your partner for signs it’s all about to go south
your mental health feels affected by the same old relational patterns, over and over again
you either say too much, or you say too little in conflict
you are a people-pleaser / self-sacrificer to the point of resentment
you struggle with self-worth and cringe and wither at being told to ‘love yourself’
you wouldn’t know where to begin with loving yourself anyway, because you silently more comfortable with hating on yourself
you are ready to take accountability through compassionate truth for how you show up in the world
you are single, or you are in a relationship currently, or you’re dealing with someone challenging at work
you are over 30 years of age (if you are younger but really want to do the course, let’s talk).
you are ready to do the work, knowing it will be tough at times, but that commitment will bring you to the most powerful version of yourself so far.
you are open to sharing with a small committed and trustworthy group, all on the same journey.
you are ready to reveal some difficult truths to yourself at times through the course of the programme
you value courage.
Wisely Attached is likely not for you if:
if you feel resistant to looking deeper into your own patterns and feel committed to staying in a state of ‘blame’ and anger as a way to give yourself relief.
if you are resistant to looking honestly at your own family and relational history and in fact believe it has little to nothing to do with your present relationships.
if you believe the primary issue is that everyone else has been the problem so far in your relationships (this programme will not focus on blame of another, only recognition of the impact of difficult experiences in the name of personal growth, health and development).
if you are resistant to taking ownership for your role in relationship patterns in your present and future.
if you are committed to complaints instead of solutions (complaints are fundamentally different to the honest expression of very real challenging lived experiences, which is encouraged).
if you don’t believe you need to take accountability for your relationships or for yourself.
if you are committed to someone else fixing your problems (this work is transformational, but only if you do it!)
if you are not willing to dedicate between 1.5 to 3 hours weekly.
if you expect easy solutions without effort or without facing powerful emotions.
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Louize’s Work
Louize has been a mental health professional for 16 years, coached clients for 10 years worked with national and international companies, public and private, corporate and creative, from Dublin to Cincinnati to LA, and has appeared on all major national news and media channels over the past 15 years including:
RTE 1
Today FM
KPMG
EY
Newstalk
AIB
Irish Independent
Sunday Business Post
Irish Times
Ireland AM
BOI
Irish Examiner
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This work is not easy but commitment to it has the effect of changing your experience of relationships, with yourself and therefore with others, and as a direct result, changing your life. You do not have to walk the journey alone and I’m so looking forward to meeting you inside the doors of one of the programmes.
Until then
- Louize
You can find me primarily on Instagram or Linked In, or on The Therapy Room podcast on Spotify.
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